CAFFECTION

Don't we all need a hug now and then? Okay, so we really need at least one a day, like the vitamin. A Caffection Vitamin encourages you to Live Life, Laugh Often, Love Much. Take one daily to provide encouragement, affirmation, love and support to the one who matters most in your life. Allows you to build a strong, vibrant, healthy relationship that will last a lifetime.

Resources Abound

2009-09-09T20:11:00.009-04:00

Project: Noun. Mr Webster states this is a 'planned event', though some projects fall way outside the 'planned' concept. We're in the midst one of those 'projects' right now. We're changing web hosts for Caffection.com and have run into more than a few snags. Being true optimists, we didn't have far to look to find the good in the challenges. Here's three just for starters: 1) This has given us opportunity to implement ideas recommended by the many Caffection fans out there. 2) We've revisited some of the sites we list as resources and found they've also upgraded and improved their sites as well. Freedom to Marry has a dynamic page on legal marriage and HRC has a wedding registry for couples to share their excitement & joy. 3) As with any project, dusting & sprucing things up helps keep a site fresh and vibrant. Just like a good relationship, always finding new ways to show gratitude and affirmation. While we're pushing ahead, we appreciate your patience with some broken links and disheveled pages. The gain will be worth the pain.

Caffection Connection

2009-09-08T20:20:00.005-04:00

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As a Caffected Couple, making friends you both connect with is a great way to affirm your relationship (as well as the other couples'). Some fun ways to support each others' relationships are getting together for dinners, going to concerts or just playing cards. Though we can't believe it ourselves, the photo above was taken pool-side during a Christmas Eve celebration on Kauai with our friends Becky & Andy. We've all had friends that we hate to say good-bye to when life moves us on, yet staying connected over long distance and years is worth the time and effort.

Self-Denial & Marriage

2009-08-31T17:39:00.005-04:00

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Happy marriages are innovative, fresh, surprising.

What We Leave Behind

2009-07-29T07:45:00.005-04:00

There's an old, apocryphal story of a couple who'd been together over fifty years. They were a model couple, loving, warm, compassionate, a truly 'Caffected' pair. The old man developed a fatal illness, and was dead within a few months. His widow was grief stricken, of course that her best friend was gone--for now--but she relished the many years they'd been together. At the funeral home, people came and went, consoling the old woman, viewing the old man in his casket. They all left the viewing scratching their heads, all with the same question: Why was he holding a fork in his left hand?
weeks later, the old widow was asked that question by a group of friends at church. "Why was your husband holding a fork in his hand in his casket?"
"Because," the old woman said with a smile. "My dear husband loved dessert. I always told him during dinner, 'keep your fork, the best is yet to come'."
So...what will you want to be holding in your hand when they lower you into the ground?

What Color is Your Soul?

2009-07-28T15:56:00.003-04:00

A question not often pondered, but consider it for a moment if you will. Where does that one simple question take you? First you may drift to the color charts of your mind. Is it really that simple, after all what is a soul? An extension of our deepest self that reflects our truest feelings? A spiritual entity within?
What color is your soul? Does this color include an appreciation for the many areas of your life for which you're grateful? Is the color warm or cool just now? Will it reflect the hope you have for the future or carry the weight of past sorrows? How wonderful to be present, allowing your true colors to shine brightly as an affirming light, for the ones you love the most and the ones watching from afar.
What color would you like the world to see?

TROG

2009-07-24T09:30:00.005-04:00

TROG--A new word? Actually, an acronym meaning Truly Ridiculous Outrageous Goal. It's your big WHY? It's the reason you get out of bed in the morning. We all need a TROG, a big WHY, a reason to get out of bed in the morning. If we don't have a TROG we may as well go back to bed and have a big Z, because our day(s) will almost surely be a disappointment.
Our TROG, our big why is Caffection for everyone. We look forward to the day when divorce is a foreign concept because people actually get married for love. They value their relationship so much that they form work of art that others want to emulate.
TROG because our goal consists of four parts: Truly--it really is what we intend; Ridiculous--subject to ridicule? Yes, but we're not about to let that sway us--A moon landing was called a ridiculous goal by many people; Outrageous? Sure, and why not? How many people would respond to a goal of sorting your sock drawer? Goal? Yes it is. Everyone needs one. Join us?

Stay Positive

2009-07-23T05:53:00.005-04:00

Many people live in a zero sum world. It's too bad, really, considering the abundance all around us. But many persist in seeing the world as an I win you lose kind of place. It's difficult to find a balance sometimes, especially when you're a couple of dreamers like us, to remember that there are people out there who take every advantage. But we choose to believe they're in the minority, and that most people at least have the initial impulse to be generous, and open to new things. I guess we live in what might be called a sum-plus world, where there's room, and advantage, and enough for everyone. Radical idea, but it works for us. We look at some of our family and friends and we see people who live in fear and anxiety that their lives are in constant danger of disruption and loss. And guess what? Each and every one of them are...in constant danger of disruption and loss! Coincidence? We don't think so. Here's what we believe. The fuzzy old adage that the more you give the more you get...is true!

Creating Summer Fun

2009-07-21T20:39:00.005-04:00

We've heard many people are doing "Staycations" in place of vacations this year. And we're proof positive a staycation can be done with a smile and good humor. One thing we like to do is create our own fun. We go to local events, such as Red, White & Boom, we make up new wordles, we found "Caffection" listed as a Squeasel word. Once we found out about squeasel words we asked them to add a word Lynne Bowman of Equality Ohio created -- Banniversary -- (and the folks at Squeasel did it!) We've gone out to eat with several friends and still have more events to attend. We've heard the new ballpark is a great venue, so we'll be taking in a game soon. We also have a little chiminea out back & with the cooler temps, we've been able to sneak out there at night, make a fire & watch the fireflys.
So tell us your staycation ideas!

New Definition

2009-07-21T18:17:00.005-04:00

Once in a while a new word, phrase or definition comes along. Then, after hanging around for a while in the doldrums, it begins to get a bit of buzz, and then reaches the tipping point, spilling into the popular domain. At that point the word becomes almost a fad item: People work it into every conversation they can, just to show how alert they are to ever changing social trends. 'Tipping point' is just such a phrase. ' Google' is another. 'Empowerment' is the buzzword for what used to be called individuality.
So along comes 'Caffection'. At this non-tippy point, Caffection is in the doldrums, still waiting in line to find its way into the lexicon. As I write this, people still have trouble wrapping their tongue around the word--Caff--fection, they say, or Caffac...Caffavect...Cafelect...No wait. We predict that at some time in the near future Caffection (Affection with a C in front) will become a buzzword, the latest fad word that glides off everyone's lips like champagne bubbles, only easier.
And what will they mean when they work Caffection into a conversation? They'll be referring to a new definition of committed, stable, secure, happy marriage--marriage to one's best friend. They'll say Caffection is the only way to live. And they'll be right.
Got Caffection?

Abundance

2009-07-18T14:08:00.006-04:00

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Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.
Wayne Dyer

2009-07-05T18:44:00.006-04:00

We made a roadtrip to Cleveland April 7th. This beautiful home had its large yard graced by a late season snow. It didn't seem to mind the inconvenience of coolness, only taking in the fresh moisture upon its new spring green. Relationships are like that too. We get to choose how we respond to all situations in life.

Happy 4th

2009-07-04T12:45:00.004-04:00

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The entire sum of existence is the magic of being needed by just one person.
Vi Putnam

Ms Putnam was referring to the ache we feel as human beings to 'belong' to someone, the desire too deep and too integral to our existence to ignore what draws us, as steel to a magnet, to another. We're all needed by someone whether we know it or not. It seems to be a mark of adulthood to accept that condition and not dismiss it or run away. Notice, too, that Putnam doesn't say condition, or state, or reality--she says 'magic'. Imagine that: the 'magic of being needed'. Responsibility? Yes, quite a lot of it. But when examined closely it's the responsibility to be who we need to be ourselves, to aspire to the level of humanity we ourselves deserve to find. In the end it seems we are needed by ourselves, too. Could this be the ultimate form of love and connection, the simple 'magic' of becoming the person we know we are, by being needed by one other person?

Mine

2009-06-10T21:40:00.003-04:00

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Each mom wants her child to be accepted, not rejected by our world. Acknowledged for what they have to offer, not ridiculed by society. Every mom wants her child to find someone to share their life with, to love openly and to be welcomed. Happy Mother's Day to all moms.
Share this video with every mom who looks forward to the day when all children are celebrated.

Be Who You Are

2009-05-09T19:39:00.005-04:00

Any who know us realize, what Mariah and I have is such a wonderful, soul-satisfying relationship that we've been led to share the feelings and the manifold facets of this marriage with everyone. We've wrestled with the tendency to keep it to ourselves, stay in the background, and 'behave ourselves' around family and friends. But that's not who we are, and we must be true to ourselves.
Just like our LGBT friends, who feel compelled every day to hide who they truly are, we finally say enough. Enough duplicity, embarrassment and shame. The world needs more people to stand up and announce who they are, and what they believe.

Sunrise

2009-05-07T07:06:00.005-04:00

The point of power is always in the present moment. Louise L. Hay

Congratulations Maine!

2009-05-06T17:29:00.005-04:00

Another day to celebrate Caffection Married to My Best Friend!

It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood in New England today. We commend Gov Baldacci and the Maine senate for their stand on civil rights . With the New Hampshire Marriage Equality Bill on Governor John Lynch's desk, please send an email to let him know why equality is important to you. Exciting change is sweeping our nation, Jim and Brenda Johnson report the latest happenings in DC and we see Rhode Island continuing to march forward. It is a beautiful day in the neighborhood indeed, and love will prevail.

Community

2009-05-05T07:52:00.005-04:00