Love, Commitment and Caffection

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We attended a beautiful wedding last weekend. Two people who are obviously caffected, in every sense of the word. There's nothing they wouldn't do for each other and it shows. We understand this feeling of commitment, concern and love. It's an appreciation for one another that grows deeper everyday and can last a lifetime if nurtured properly.
We routinely send cards (now you can even send e-cards), leave each other notes, look up fun & romantic places to travel. We do simple things, such read and make meals together (and clean up the kitchen). Just knowing the other is there to help or lend a hand adds value to our relationship.
What do you do to build your bond?

Raise the Bar

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Raise the bar for marriage. First of all, marriage is not a heterosexual privilege, but a human right. Many of our LGBT friends are desperately attempting to obtain the right to marry. Their inclusion in the ranks of married people can only elevate the institution of marriage above where it is now. Those organizations which are identified by people anxious to join are by definition more desirable. Besides, other arrangements, so-called 'marriage lite', such as partnering, living together, common law, civil unions etc. all act to disperse and thereby lower the sanctity of marriage. Society ought to discourage those. A truly conservative, self-protective, reasonable society would strongly encourage its citizens to have all the privileges of marriage.

Gaps

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I got gaps; you got gaps; we fill each other's gaps. Rocky

Caffection? What's All The Excitement?

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What is CAFFECTION?

It is an unmistakable bond with the love of your life. It's the most passionate, on-going, fun, energizing, magnificent relationship you can ever imagine. AND when you've got it, you Know it!

Connection + AFFECTION = CAFFECTION!

You also wish it for everyone you know. It IS fantastic to have what you have. The love you have is very cool. Everyone wants what you have. Enjoy it, be proud of it, share it.

The Marvelous Bowl

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We've been blessed to meet, in person & virtually, many caffected couples who've shared their stories so we may pass them on to you. We're excited for the day when we begin receiving videos to place on the website as well. This touching story comes to us from T & W in Chicago.

My lover and I have been together for 17 years, which surprises us almost as much as it does people who assume gay marriages don't last. A lot of the credit for our longevity goes to a straight couple who befriended us very early in our relationship and gave us an amazing gift.
They told us to picture our relationship as a bowl we share. Every day, it's up to each of us to put something in the bowl. It can be anything--an act of kindness, a trinket, taking care of things so the other can sleep in, a lavish present... anything. The point is for each of us to never end a day without doing something especially for the other.
The bowl is impervious to disagreements, changing moods, etc. It must be attended to every day regardless of how we feel about each other. So many have been the times that I've not liked W very much, but my obligation to the bowl (i.e., our marriage) has compelled me to do something nice for him... and vice versa.
It's amazing how quickly frustrations and anger with your lover dissolve when, for instance, you wake up in the middle of the night and find a candy bar he's placed on your bed table.
Trust me, the bowl is a marvelous--sometimes miraculous--thing!

Healthy Vibrant Marriages

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There's No Place Like Home. Home, a word that means safety, security, warmth. For us, when we hear the word home, we think of each other. Marriage = Home. Many of you can relate to that. What does this "home" look like? Positive people bringing out the best in each other. Two committed adults who are kind, sensitive and considerate of each others' needs. Folks who know they're married to their best friend. The one who will be there through thick & thin, sickness & sorrow, to share health & happiness with. It's very cool and it's forever.
We, just as many of you, have the most wonderful "home." However, this is the 2nd "home" (marriage) for each of us. This is a home we would literally die for and if anyone tried to take it away, we'd fight tooth & nail. It would seem absurd for the government to declare our current marriage void because of any religious viewpoint. What would a "Don't Divorce Us!" video with all the heterosexual, second-time-around straight marriages look like? What biblical verse forbids divorce/remarriage? Or perhaps the real question is, what constitutional law allows it?
This doesn't look like the land of the free, Toto. Be brave Dorothy, we'll help you get there.

There's No Place Like HOME.