Celebrate Your Relationship

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Our mission is to energize relationships, and celebrate an elite status--Caffection! We believe in affirming positive vibrant relationships.
Being in an intimate relationship with the person you're closest to in the world is incredibly romantic. It's sexy as hell. Just walking down the street together holding hands people notice how attractive you are, and they want it, too.
Our mission at Caffection is to bring light to the fact that fabulous long-term relationships can (and do) happen. A call to all Caffected couples, let's stand up and be the role models our society needs today.

Love, Commitment and Caffection

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We attended a beautiful wedding last weekend. Two people who are obviously caffected, in every sense of the word. There's nothing they wouldn't do for each other and it shows. We understand this feeling of commitment, concern and love. It's an appreciation for one another that grows deeper everyday and can last a lifetime if nurtured properly.
We routinely send cards (now you can even send e-cards), leave each other notes, look up fun & romantic places to travel. We do simple things, such read and make meals together (and clean up the kitchen). Just knowing the other is there to help or lend a hand adds value to our relationship.
What do you do to build your bond?

Self-Denial & Marriage

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Once in a while the opportunity arises to think of our spouse instead of ourselves. These fleeting chances don’t come along very often, but when they do, and if we grab them, the warm and fuzzy feeling it infuses in our marriage makes it worth whatever the cost. Here are a few examples of events and opportunities we can look for to deny our own needs and wants inside our relationship, and to enhance the quality of our marriage with very little effort.

We’ve heard for years that role reversal can be a distressing thing, that when we step outside our assigned spot we invite all manner of disruption and discord. But what if we made the reversal something of a routine, thereby lessening its impact? Say we take turns cooking, or making grocery rounds, or even getting the car, lawn mower, furnace and/or air conditioner serviced. None of those items require a specific gender marker, and our mate will be astonished if we step outside ourselves, get over whatever squeamishness we may have about any of the tasks listed above and, as the ad says, “Just do it!” The look on their face will be priceless.

Ask them what they wish we’d stop doing. This one’s tough; we have to be able to listen--we did ask, after all--and what they tell us may not be easy to hear. But they’ll appreciate the gesture, and my guess is, that every couple has things they’d like to discuss with each other about minor irritants (or not so minor). My other guess is that we already know the answer, and we’re just getting them to confirm what we suspect. In any case, the conversation is always helpful, just for the communication if nothing else. Plus, then you get to tell them something!

Don’t be afraid to solicit advice and ideas from close friends. Since we started our marriage website, my wife and I have been amazed at the number of couples who seem almost embarrassed to celebrate their marriage. This self-consciousness about being together is pervasive, and, we believe, corrosive to relationships. Asking others what works for them in terms of rituals, time together, bonding and communicating may elicit stares and stammering from other couples, but it may produce some gems, too. We’ve been pleasantly surprised at our seminars at the great ideas couples have for sharing their love and commitment to each other. The other gratifying thing we’ve learned is that couples with similar values, views, and energy levels attract each other. And it works both ways: negative, acerbic couples seem to enjoy sharing their harsh view of the world; positive, upbeat couples hang with those who share their optimistic, positive view.

Some years ago Carly Simon sang about ‘Anticipation’. The song was atop the charts for several weeks, and is still heard from time to time. It’s likely that no single effort endears people to each other more in relationships than the simple act of anticipating the others’ needs. Many times I’ve been able to enjoy the look on my wife’s face when, as she enters our home after work, the exact meal she hoped would be on the table actually is there waiting for her. It’s moments like these that make a marriage endure. And it’s all about anticipation. In addition, the effort seems to be not only contagious, it also appears to be self-perpetuating. Call it marital telepathy: the more we anticipate our partner’s needs and wants, the easier it is to do the same next time. After awhile it seems to come naturally, like reading each other’s minds. It can get downright eerie after a string of such occurrences. Any number of times my wife and I have experienced a similar urge to call each other with specific information, prepared a favorite meal we knew they’d want, or made arrangements to see or do something to please them--well before they asked for it. This could be a rather subjective method of determining the potential for longevity in a marriage: after a year, see how well the pair reads the others’ thoughts, and judge from that. Instead of the newlywed game, call it perhaps the first anniversary game instead, at which time the exercise can be performed, and a score tallied.

Finally, not so much self-denial as distraction-denial--kids, television, computers, Wii, hobbies, yard work, tasks of all sorts that can wait--these are the things that need to be secondary to a relationship. These are the things that our mate, our best friend, may want us to put aside, but be hesitant to ask for. Willingness to put them first is always a win-win. Here’s the deal: if we’d put those things aside for our best friend--then we should do it that much sooner for our mate.

Rituals in Marriage: Couple Glue for the two of you.

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“At the core, what rituals do is, they give you a sense of history, predictability, playfulness or something to look forward to.”
Dr. Carol Bruess, author of What Happy Couples Do.

Everyone has rituals whether they realize it or not. Married couples have a lot of rituals, and they act as a kind of glue that holds the union intact, even in good times. Maybe especially in good times. The word ritual in fact, has the same root as the word rite, which is the act that makes us married people in the first place. From Latin ‘ritus’ via middle English for descriptions of ceremonies, the word has a long history with communities and couples. It also gave us the word arithmetic, originally meaning to count, or pronounce noteworthy. From the Encyclopedia Brittanica “Ritual is a specific, observable mode of behavior exhibited by all known societies. It is thus possible to view ritual as a way of defining or describing humans.”
All known societies. That means all of us. In marriage, though, the rituals of our daily interaction describe not just the initiation or onset of a new status or identification, but an ongoing behavior that almost identifies us to each other. Think of the Newlywed Game TV show many years ago. Those young, or not so young, couples were asked to identify behaviors of their mates. Then the recently off-stage mate was asked to identify with those behaviors. It was interesting to note how many times couples got it wrong, meaning that one or the other didn’t recognize a ritual as such. Over time, those people will see more clearly the ways those behaviors impact their mate and the relationship.

Rituals run the gamut from heartwarming to irritating, and everything in between. Some define roles in the relationship: he takes out the trash; she irons clothes, or the other way around. In some marriages he decides on vehicle matters; she defines the house and its contents. He might organize the vacation, while she sets up child care and the kennel.
But the rituals that truly matter in a relationship are the fun, romantic, bonding behaviors that are like the DNA of the marriage. Call it couple glue. Here’s a list of wonderful rituals gathered over many years. They’re loving, fun, even fascinating snippets of creative outreach between people fortunate enough to be deeply in love with their mates, regardless of the number of years together. And the exhilarating part is, they’re available for use by everyone.

Love notes--the old standby. Leave them everywhere, and at random. They don’t have to be extensive. In fact, shorter is better. Forget Twitter--write something.

A single flower goes a long way.

Be on the lookout for casual announcements from your mate such as “I’d sure like to...” Make that happen, and you’re the most romantic spouse on earth.

After ‘hello’, say something uplifting and complimentary. “Have I told you lately that I adore you?” is far better than “Did you remember to cancel the paper?” Make it a ritual.
Whisper. It’s incredibly romantic, and it drives the kids nuts. Great ritual.

Home from work, just snuggle in complete silence for long minutes.

Anticipate chores they hate, and do them ahead of time. This is love in action.

Nicnames may sound silly, but they identify you. ‘Goofball, Fred, Betty, snuggle-butt, sexpot, honey-bear, there are a thousand of them, a million maybe.

Remember their parents’ anniversaries/birthdays/death dates/red letter days.

Two words: Chocolate and Port.

Call them out of the blue.

Carve your initials in a tree. Yes, inside a heart.

Guys--open her car door for her. Old fashioned? Sure, that’s the point.

Women--talk him up. Men simply love it when wives brag, especially if it’s true.

Never share a mate’s deficiencies with anyone.

Guys--listen.

Women--tell your mate what you want.

Guys--no teasing, about anything.

Women--no criticizing, just pose ‘opportunities to improve’.


Select a keyword. Use it for ‘rescue me’, or ‘I need you to listen’, or ‘I’d rather not invite the Johnsons to dinner because they snipe at each other’. Keywords are handy. My wife and I use ‘fascinating’, as in, ‘The Johnsons are fascinating people, dear’. Guess who doesn’t get invited? Another, somewhat more exciting keyword can signal a desire for sex. The secret there is that every couple has one of these already whether they acknowledge it or not.

Maybe the best ritual of all is to simply show gratitude for everything your mate does. Marriage isn’t all sweetness and light, after all. It involves the interaction of two people who will have two different styles in everything from money to sex to clutter, to child-rearing. The best way to steer clear of petty clashes and irritation about those stylistic differences is to find something positive about the issue at hand, and be grateful for the way your mate handles it. Gratitude goes a long way to soothing upsets. It’s a good ritual to acquire in any marriage.

Rituals are such a critical part of relationships it’s good to identify the ones that define ours. Everyone has them; everyone needs them. It may even be more important to identify those which cause us irritation and discomfort over time--the way dirty clothes are left around, closets in disarray, those after dinner retreats to the den, leaving dirty dishes. Those are rituals, too. They may hold us together in ways we didn’t anticipate, minor irritations that we mention to friends in negative ways. In that regard we ought to turn them around, insert positives in their place, and reap the reward of their impact on the relationship. Couple glue should be warm and bonding. Great rituals can help make that happen.

Empty Nest

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Filling the empty nest: Nurturing each other post-child rearing. (For ezine.com 8/24/09)

The house even sounds empty, doesn’t it? You walk in and your footfall seems to echo; the sounds of the refrigerator clanking on startles you with its suddenness; imaginary kid sounds emanate from empty upstairs rooms. Pictures on the mantel stare back, and you remember when they were that age, and marvel at quickly time has passed. You miss your children: the laughter in the house; the hum of their constant presence; the palpable sensation that they are there, and that they need you. They were job one for as long as you can recall. Now they’re gone, and you miss them.
But there’s something else you miss. You miss each other; the easy interaction before the kids came along; the ability to throw a change of clothes and a toothbrush in a bag, jump in the car, tear away to New York, or San Francisco, or Kansas City for a long weekend, and never even think about the house, or pets, or kids. It was so easy, and you took for granted that it always would be. All you needed was a little cash, and a roadmap, and you were perfectly content.
But it goes deeper than that, doesn’t it? Admit it; you miss each other. The years of looking after the kids, being there for them whenever they needed you 24/7, always, always aware of their needs, presence, attachment, and care really did get between the two of you. Admit it. It happens to all of us. For long years we live for our kids.
And then one day they’re gone, off to school, careers, wives and husbands of their own, and you’re left with each other, almost strangers. And it happens so fast, almost like a whirlwind, that it can take your breath away. The real fear is that it has taken you away. Away from the one person you’ve shared the burden of child rearing with, the one person whom you miss even more than the kids.

Well, those people are still around, just a bit older, wiser, and equally curious about what happened to those two lovers who used to jump in the car and drive five hundred miles on a whim, have friends over till 2 a.m. playing Trivial Pursuit, or make love in the middle of the afternoon, blissfully carefree and unconcerned that you’d be interrupted. That’s the good news, you see? You now have that back again, and more, once you reorganize around the two of you, and let the kids go, because they’re already gone.
Today’s empty nesters have an advantage our parents didn’t have: once we get our kids out the door, launched and successful, we can easily be looking at another thirty years child free. Years of introducing ourselves to each other all over again; years of getting to know our spouses in ways we never could have imagined. We’re different people now, to be sure, and that’s very good news. We are, as indicated above, older, wiser, and even more exciting, we’re more interesting people. When we first met the spark of romance, of curiosity about the other was powerful. Not to mention the physical attraction, which seemed to overshadow everything else at times. Now we’re a lot more knowledgeable about the world, steeped in perspective, sure of ourselves, and confident. Plus, for most people, we have a lot more disposable income with the kids gone. And, if we’re willing to look at it objectively, that’s a much sexier, more appealing package than when we first met and all we had between us was perhaps a backpack full of books and our ambition to change the world.
Once the world has changed us, and the kids go away, here are a few ways to regain the connection we once enjoyed. Here are a few suggestions to reconnecting with your mate.

1 Set up a date. Call each other up, meet at a fine restaurant, and instead of going home, spend the night together at a hotel. Take the time to map out a real plan, a strategy for the next year or so concerning your goals and ambitions. It’s possible that neither of you even remembered the dream of living in Shanghai, teaching English, the fantasy you laughed about in college. You could rent the house, sign up with an agency and truly do that. Why not? At least talk it out. Talk about your money goals: you really could acquire a rental property, especially in this economy, and have it for income and a tax break. Talk about your plan for keeping the kids from returning home. No kidding, the boomerangers can disrupt even the best laid plans. Talk about what you’ll do if one of them can’t find work, and asks to come home. It could happen. It does happen.

2 Find a charity you both support, and make it your shared passion. There are fine organizations out there that need your help*. Get online and research one or two, then make a goal of helping. You were filled with an altruistic impulse years ago; rediscover that, and make it a shared commitment. One charity we support is Kiva.org, a fine group that allows you to bankroll women in third world countries with microcredit so they can establish a business of their own. There are no middlemen, the system works wonderfully well to elevate women in their society, and they even pay you back! There are many charities you and your spouse can help, and they’ll help you in return.

3 If you’re able to, take off for a year and travel. Friends of ours did this with a camper they converted, stocked, and drove all over the United States. Then they wrote about it. Their book ‘Live Your Road Trip Dream: Travel for a Year for the Cost of Staying Home’, by Phil and Carol White** chronicles their journey, and is filled with useful information on how to make it happen for yourself. Don’t have a year? Take the summer. Take a month. The idea is to get to know each other again, and reconnect. Done right, it can be a revelation.

4 Radical ideas may be the best ones. After all, this ain’t a dress rehearsal, as they say. Do you need all that house? If you find yourself asking why you have all that room to bang around in, why not sell it and move in to something smaller? Sure, the market is lousy, but who knows when it’ll get better? Besides, a seller becomes a buyer, and there are a lot of bargains out there. If you buy right, you may be better off. The real plus in this idea is the opportunity to clean out closets, shed a few thousand knick-knacks you’ve been wanting to dump, and to consolidate the artifacts of your life into a meaningful collection. Do you really want to keep that lava lamp? The yard sale could finance the microcredit loan to Kiva.

5 Just talk to each other again. Turn off the TV, the computer, the iPhones. Ignore the doorbell. Let the answering machine get the calls. Disappear into a shell for days at a time.
6 Take dance lessons. Join a travel club. Take classes together, either on campus or on line. Start a collection of something--art, glassware, old train sets, artifacts from your wedding year, autographs of authors or movie stars. First editions. Signed first editions. Write a book together. Start an empty-nesters club for recipes, dinners, plays, movies, sports activities, or the charity you picked. Start an investment club. There are an unlimited number of ways for you to rediscover a shared passion: your marriage, and each other.
The nest is only empty of kids, and it suddenly has a whole lot more room. This is your chance to nurture each other, and to start enjoying that nest egg you’ve been building.


*Try charitynavigator.org to check on every aspect of an organization, and to find worthwhile causes.
**©Copyright 2004 Phil and carol White

My Journal to You

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We've talked many times about using rituals to keep your bond strong. The first time we blogged about "JATS" June 21, 2008 we received some curious doubt. "Do you really write to each other in bed?" Well, yes, we do. It affirms our love. The romance continues. Try it, you'll like it.

Choose Your Life

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We have a calling to train couples to celebrate their solid relationships with affirmations and rituals. It's very exciting to know you can choose your attitude and your life! How wonderful to be in a forever relationship with the one you love the most.
An important part of a caffected relationship is making time for each other, not just the leftover pieces of your day. 'Quality time' is a cliche, but there's a particle of truth to it. Love requires positive energy management to not only sustain itself, but to grow and prosper.
Creating rituals helps you focus your time and energy on your mate, your best friend! Making time for your best friend lets them know just how important they are to you.
Imagine being able to be with the one special person who knows your secrets, knows your foibles, fears, aspirations. The one you'd want sharing your space, your kitchen, your car, your bed, your living and dining room, your romantic interludes, your life? If you're nodding your head right now, you are caffected. We applaud your commitment!
Be sure to use this recipe to keep your love fresh & vibrant: Combine fun, nurturing, patience, understanding, appreciation, support, respect. Knead well. Rich rewards are in store. Enjoy.

Fun ways to Celebrate Valentines Day

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In the spirit of Valentines Day we celebrate love.

The exchanging of Valentine Cards, originally hand-made of lace and ribbons featuring cupids and hearts, was the first popular symbol attached to this celebration of romance.
Roses were said to be sacred to Venus, the Goddess of Love. The red rose is the most popular Valentine symbol, implying beauty, passion and love. And of course there is the, always in-style, box of chocolates.

7 Romantic ways to show your Caffection:

1) Send flowers
2) Listen
3) Make a favorite meal
7) Read Poetry
3) Write a Love Letter
2) Gentle Massage
1) Make Love

Affirming Exclusive Romantic Marriage

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The books we read have a direct impact on our path. We know there are no mistakes in the universe, the challenges life sends our way can lead us down an unexpected path. Our response to those challenges, however, creates our life direction. It is the same for you.
You see, you are the pilot. You are the navigator. As long as you remain in control of your thoughts, you are in control of your life. We believe attitude and kindness are a choice. Every day we're all surrounded by countless messages from our family, the media and our society. We have the privilege of choosing what we take in AND what we give out.
Our choice is reflected through the information we provide on our website & blog. Caffection Married to My Best Friend indicates we're positive people who live by the examples of our many teachers.

Fantastic Sex

did they really say that?!

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Yes we did. And we'll say it again. Fantastic SEX!

Attention all Caffected couples, your relationship is already great and we commend you. Now it's time to get excited about some of the benefits of caffection.
With the first Caffection Seminar date rapidly approaching, we're putting the final touches on the content. During one of our brainstorming sessions, the topic of what elevates a good marriage to a "great" marriage arose. So, you ask, what does? Hands down; good communication. Communication in every sense of that word. Verbal, emotional and physical. We're all tactile creatures. Being touched, inside and out of the bedroom IS a big deal. Many of us were brought up knowing sex was taboo. We're here to say, get over it, it's time to move on. Sex is Fantastic. It's fun. And it's FREE! So if you're charting unfamiliar territory, invest in Dr. Saul Rosenthal's straight-forward book; Sex Over 40, buy a few candles, put on some romantic music, start with a bath and a massage. Then indulge in a passionate encounter that a Caffected marriage encourages. You're lovers. It IS wonderful!

Holiday cheer

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Tis the season. With the economy the way it is, there's a golden opportunity to find brand new ways to celebrate without spending a ton of credit-card fueled extravagance. Here are a few ideas--items on the website are marked down to $5.95 for the beautiful e-book/movies. Just go to caffection.com/exclusive.html. Also, wwwcaffection.com/romanticresources.html you'll find useful items for free, with our compliments. Create a small piece of immortality for your relationship; go to wwwcaffection.com/couplesstories.html and write a funny, poignant, heartwarming tale about your lover. Talk about romantic! Your story will be preserved forever in the Caffection Archive. And it's free.

PWE

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Great motivational speaker Andy Andrews, author of The Traveler's Gift and other best selling books uses a simple mantra in his presentations. "Persist Without Exception". Andy states that people only think they know what that means. That we only need to persist until we discover that there's simply no way to do or be or get what we want. But that isn't what PWE means. It means, quite literally, to persist without any exceptions, hesitations, or interruptions until we, as Andrews says, "find a way where there is no way." He goes on to illustrate his point in reference to The Traveler's Gift, a wonderful little book about seven of the great people in history who only triumphed because they understood PWE. The world is full of people who get within days or inches or attempts of their goal and then give up in the face of adversity. Those who persist without exception end up in history books. Caffected relationships are the romantic, tender, committed example of PWE. Got Caffection? You could make history.

Autumn Caffection

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Here are a few ways to celebrate your caffection this autumn.  The couple pictured here is engaged in what could be the earliest, simplest form of establishing an enduring memory together.  Part of being caffected is to allow the kid in you to emerge, release your inhibitions, and chase each other through the leaves.  Follow that up with hot cider, garnished with a stick of vanilla.  Then, fix a fire for the first time this season, curl up with a good book--we recommend one we've reviewed previously--and just read to each other.  There are few things in life more intimate than reading to your mate.  Again, let the kid in you come out and play.  One of our earliest childhood memories is having a parent or guardian read to us at bedtime.  There's something satisfying in a really primitive way in being read to.  Finally, fix a late dinner together.  Make it special; wine and candlelight in the middle of the week is sexy, romantic and unexpectedly affirming.  So kick the leaves, put cider in the crock pot, find a good book, and spend a warm early fall evening just enjoying each other.  You're worth it. 

Affirming Romantic Marriages

Everyone should have a love like this.
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Affirmations and rituals are two of the best ways to stay connected. Keep your love flourishing by affirming each other frequently. When we asked one young man if he was married to his best friend, he enthusiastically responded with, "I won the love lottery!" You can bet his beautiful love enjoys hearing him praise their relationship that way. Talk your mate up when you're out in a group. Don't be shy, brag about how cool it is to be in a caffected relationship. Some wonderful rituals we've heard of include sending e-mails, cards, candy, or flowers out of the blue. Encourage couples you know to build their relationships too. Let us know how you keep your love alive and vibrant?

Lovers

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The term lover is a rather odd one when you think about it. Odd, because choosing to live with someone, and share a life with them, including all the up down sideways and across that makes a life these days, it would seem odd indeed to share all that with someone you just 'liked'. But when someone refers to their lover, it connotes a secretive, clandestine 'other', a person under wraps from a spouse, and not discussed.

We call each other lover all the time, and it's understood in no uncertain terms that we mean each other. Caffection is like that; we're lovers in every way there is, joined at the heart, with no daylight between us. They said it would last six months. That was ten years ago, so perhaps they were right. It has lasted six months, plus another 96 into the bargain. Lovers are odd people. We really do see only each other, think about each other, sleep and wake up with each other. Very odd. And exhilarating. And satisfying. And the way a marriage should be. And that's not odd. That's even. Even better than it appears. Got Caffection?

All aboard

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California gets support from Episcopal bishops this week, as noted in 365gay.com "The bishops went on to say in the statement “We do not believe that marriage of heterosexuals is threatened by same-sex marriage. Rather, the Christian values of monogamy, commitment, love, mutual respect and witness of monogamy are enhanced for all by providing this right to gay and straight alike. Society is strengthened when two people who love each other choose to enter into marriage, engaged in a lifetime of disciplined relationship building that serves as a witness to the importance of love and commitment.” Read the full article.
We're excited to be living in a time which will see marriage for ALL. It’s good to have strong leaders stand up for equality, just as Gandhi and MLK. Speaking of marriage, we enjoyed these romantic stories and thought you may too. Carl & Rich
Portia & Ellen

Imagine Exotic Travels With Your Best Friend

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Traveling is fun, it's even better when you're with your best friend. We've been to every corner of the nation and many places in-between. Some of our greatest adventures were on the island of Kauai. The picture was taken before we got lost in the jungle (cool story, be sure to have us tell you about it sometime). The Na Pali Coast is a stunning place to hike and kayak. We'd love to show you some of the off-the-beaten track spots on Kauai such as Hamura's as well as the world famous Roy's. Plan to join us in the spring of 2010.

Spring 2010 Caffection Seminar

Want more out of your relationship... more romance, more fun, more energy and enjoyment? Travel with us to the Lush, exotic Hawaiian Garden Island of Kauai!

Exotic Extravaganza Exclusively for Married Best Friends
Learn Marriage Affirming Tools
Meet other Caffected Couples
A Romantic Getaway with Your Best Friend
Enrich Your Caffection With the MTMBF Team

You Know You're Caffected When...

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...friends think you're pretty weird, and their jealousy just sizzles.  We've dealt with some strange looks, interesting comments and the odd whisper.  It isn't easy at times to be the romantic duo, and display our affection for each other in public.  We were going to fly to Beijing and take in the Olympics, but there was a problem; the Chinese people frown on PDAs, not Personal Digital Assistants--Public Displays of Affection, and since we do those a lot, we figured it wasn't worth an international incident, so we're staying home.

What's wrong with PDAs?  Nothing, as long as you don't frighten the horses.  We witness all manner of mayhem, violence, crude and irreverent behavior every day, but let two people caffect in public and someone wants to call the constable.  We are a bit like the Chinese in that respect.  So, you know you're caffected when people remember how well you interact with each other.  It's a good legacy; I'll take it.

Today in History: Richard Nixon announced that he would resign from office in the wake of Watergate. 

Famous birthday: Tootsie himself, actor Dustin Hoffman 1937   

Romantic Travel Destinations For Married Best Friends

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The Eiffel Tower, according to Wikipedia, is one of the most recognized structures in the world and has had more than 200 million visitors since its construction in 1889. So popular is this massive icon, that you only need to type eiffel tower into the search bar of Google to find "about 7,820,000 results" in a mere 0.09 seconds (we love Google, we could do a blog on the perks of google---maybe we will!)

Since our planned Sept 2001 trip to Paris was cancelled, the Eiffel Tower remains solidly at the top of our romantic vacation wish list. We'd love to hear your recommendations, as well as your fun Paris stories. mariah@caffection.com or byron@caffection.com

Romantic Best Friends

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There's no contradiction in being romantic best friends.  This is not a misprint.  Lovers, caffected married people, have the elite status of having it all.  If there's a better definition of wealth, we're not sure what it is.  This wealthy status extends to every aspect of a relationship, including so-called end of life issues.  For caffected couples there can be no sadder event than a death of one member of the relationship.   When a loved one passes on there are so many items needing attention that, regardless of how diligent we are beforehand, there always seems to be something missed, some detail left out of the planning.  

To assist with that, Caffection Press has created a helpful guide that covers nearly all those items, and can be filled out in advance.  It will be available soon, for free, on our website.  Just look for Last Will & Caffection, and download it with our compliments.  Coming soon.  

So being Romantic best friends covers a lot of ground, including a part of life we'd rather not think about.  Tomorrow we'll discuss a few more exclusive items available soon from Caffection.  We have e-books, books, romantic gift items, 'boovies', journals, and much more.  Stay tuned.  Your lover will be grateful you found our site, and you'll come back again and again, especially since there will be separate items available only to certain clients who expect the highest quality, and for whom price is secondary.