The way we talk to each other matters. The way we talk to ourselves matters even more. If we want to remain caffected with our spouse, it wouldn't hurt to stay that way with ourselves. Think about the way you start your day. Do you grumble and whine when the alarm goes off? And the last thing you say to yourself at night--is it positive? Or do you dread the coming of the following day? Our brains actually release a powerful chemical depending on the way we react to things. Words can elicit these reactions, thus the chemical changes that determine our moods and behavior. Words matter.