Saturday, February 28, 2009
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
It is an unmistakable bond with the love of your life. It's the most passionate, on-going, fun, energizing, magnificent relationship you can ever imagine. AND when you've got it, you Know it!
Monday, February 23, 2009
In his Oscar acceptance speech last evening Sean Penn mentioned "the shame they continue to live in, they'll pass on to their children & grandchildren." He was referring to people in California who voted yes on Prop 8. Here's hoping Penn's Oscar win for his portrayal of Harvey Milk creates the kind of momentum needed to finally secure equal rights, including marriage equality for everyone, not just in California but across this nation. For our religious friends, it is time to listen to the founder of your liturgy, truly listen to what He said, unburden yourselves of your self-righteous hatred and bigotry and accept the simple truth that everyone, black, white, male, female, gay, straight deserves to love and be loved, and to marry who they love and cherish. It is time.
Sunday, February 22, 2009
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. JFK
Monday, February 16, 2009
Here's to all our African-American neighbors and friends and their contributions to society.
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Is different wrong? Our society often treats 'different' as unacceptable,bad or even immoral. But why? Could it be we were raised differently? Have we really taken the time to understand other view-points?
Recently we've had cause to evaluate what we consider the 'norm' or standard. A friend explained their daughter's word; "Non-Standard." Exactly. We're all non-standard in some way, and our non-standard, is another person's standard. The key is to learn from one another, to take the opportunity to understand before we judge. Many people share the same values we do, though they may not look like we do, wear what we wear, live where we live or have the same spiritual upbringing. They may not eat the foods we do, speak the same language or drive on the same side of the road, yet they live by the same guiding principles.
Caffection is like that. Being nice doesn't cost anything. It's FREE! So make being kind your default mode. Affirm each other everyday, sneak a note into your lovers' lunch bag, do the laundry -- even if it's not your turn. Find ways to make your caffection FUN. A positive, sexy, fun marriage is a choice. Decide today to make it your reality.
p.s. tuck the kiddos in bed, grab your caffected other (aka Best Friend) and see what marriage can be. ENJOY.
Friday, February 13, 2009
Roses were said to be sacred to Venus, the Goddess of Love. The red rose is the most popular Valentine symbol, implying beauty, passion and love. And of course there is the, always in-style, box of chocolates.
3) Make a favorite meal
7) Read Poetry
3) Write a Love Letter
2) Gentle Massage
1) Make Love
Thursday, February 12, 2009
We've been blessed to meet, in person & virtually, many caffected couples who've shared their stories so we may pass them on to you. We're excited for the day when we begin receiving videos to place on the website as well. This touching story comes to us from T & W in Chicago.
My lover and I have been together for 17 years, which surprises us almost as much as it does people who assume gay marriages don't last. A lot of the credit for our longevity goes to a straight couple who befriended us very early in our relationship and gave us an amazing gift.
They told us to picture our relationship as a bowl we share. Every day, it's up to each of us to put something in the bowl. It can be anything--an act of kindness, a trinket, taking care of things so the other can sleep in, a lavish present... anything. The point is for each of us to never end a day without doing something especially for the other.
The bowl is impervious to disagreements, changing moods, etc. It must be attended to every day regardless of how we feel about each other. So many have been the times that I've not liked W very much, but my obligation to the bowl (i.e., our marriage) has compelled me to do something nice for him... and vice versa.
It's amazing how quickly frustrations and anger with your lover dissolve when, for instance, you wake up in the middle of the night and find a candy bar he's placed on your bed table.
Trust me, the bowl is a marvelous--sometimes miraculous--thing!
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
We, just as many of you, have the most wonderful "home." However, this is the 2nd "home" (marriage) for each of us. This is a home we would literally die for and if anyone tried to take it away, we'd fight tooth & nail. It would seem absurd for the government to declare our current marriage void because of any religious viewpoint. What would a "Don't Divorce Us!" video with all the heterosexual, second-time-around straight marriages look like? What biblical verse forbids divorce/remarriage? Or perhaps the real question is, what constitutional law allows it?
This doesn't look like the land of the free, Toto. Be brave Dorothy, we'll help you get there.
Saturday, February 7, 2009
Imagination and creativity bring energy to a relationship. Here's a couple who started their marriage off, with an un-traditional wedding dance. Finding fun ways to spice up your relationship will add value to your lives. Whether it's with a sexy massage, flowers, or a bottle of your lover's favorite wine, surprising each other is a sure way to keep your love alive.
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Claire's viewpoint, thanks to our friends at What Happy Couples Do, reminds us of days gone by. When was it we lost the caution to be our true selves? While many people dampen our spirit, with Caffection you can make each others' world a more enjoyable place to be. Today do an extra something for your lover to let them know they mean the world to you.
"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out." Walter Winchell
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
So, what about the tough stuff. It's out there, and though we have a great relationship with lots of fun & adventures, we have challenges too. How do we deal with them within our relationship, how do you?
Many years ago I recall hearing Richard Carlson discuss the book he wrote, "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff, and it's all small stuff." He said he'd been contacted by many people who wanted to know... what about the BIG stuff? He went on to write something addressing just that. There is BIG stuff in everyone's life.
While placing links within the content of the blog, as we commonly do, I Googled the author of the book. I was shocked to learn of his unexpected death, December 13, 2006. The significance of this finding in conjunction with today's topic leaves me feeling a bit unsettled, as well as humbled to the timely comment of the gentleman married 30 years.
Please check out the website Kristine & Richard Carlson's.
Sunday, February 1, 2009
EVERYONE should have a love like yours!
We're building a community of like-minded couples who support each other in celebrating the vibrant relationship we call Caffection. Marriage is a beautiful bond shared by two adults committed to nurturing one another through the good, the bad, and the ugly. It's a commitment everyone who chooses to, shall one day have the civil right to, obtaining a marriage license. Until that glorious day arrives, we stand in full support of ALL couples who are Caffected. For in our eyes they, like us, already are MARRIED.