Tuesday, March 31, 2009



The great thing in this world is not so much where we are, but in what direction we are moving.
Oliver Wendell Holmes

Sunday, March 29, 2009

Happy Anniversary


It was fun starting the blog on our anniversary last year, plus it makes it very easy to remember how long we've had it going. We've met so many supportive people during this past year and we're amazed by the controversy it has caused. We somehow intrinsically knew marriage was for everyone who wanted nothing more for their partner than to keep them warm, and safe and loved. Seems obvious to us, so we keep promoting a radical idea called marriage equality. At first we wrote about what was prominent in our lives. Over the last year our focus has shifted toward meeting people who share our values, and find Caffection to be the resource we intend.
To our blog readers: How are we doing? How can we help you? Where do we want to be, together, March 29 2010?

Saturday, March 28, 2009

It Does Keep Getting Better!

"The Better It Gets, The Better It Gets." Abraham-Hicks
Yes, it does keep getting better. As we approach our 108th month (9 years!) anniversary, we're excited to announce: the honeymoon isn't over! Being married to your best friend truly is fantastic. We believe any and all people in vibrant, healthy relationships who choose to make this commitment, should not only be allowed, but encouraged, to join up. Everyone should celebrate Caffection!

Thursday, March 26, 2009



Journeys are not straight lines; the road to success has many curves and stops.
Never be too stubborn to turn back and find another path.
Ed Cadman

Monday, March 23, 2009

The American Dream

Solid, committed relationships should be embraced as the gold standard for everyone in pursuit of the American Dream. From a very young age we're taught the value of family. You remember; 2 parents, one car, two kids, a home with a white picket fence, a dog (or a Box Turtle) and bikes with streamers in the handle bars. Today life's a bit more hectic, creating an even greater need for a strong 2 parent family nucleus. Two loving, committed parents. Two people who love each other first and foremost. Two people who treasure their relationship.
And this is why we advocate for marriage.
Healthy, vibrant marriages are vital to our country's stability and future. Civil rights education is needed on every level. Solid, committed relationships are to be embraced as the gold standard for everyone in pursuit of the American Dream. It's our goal, through Caffection! Married to My Best Friend, to affirm all Caffected Couples and to stand by their side now and on the glorious day of their wedding.

Saturday, March 21, 2009

Healthful Marriage


The Healthful Marriage Recipe
preheat your union
  • Heartful of Love
  • Cup of Kindness
  • Unlimited Forgiveness
  • Ton of Intimacy
  • Acre of Affection
Blend love and kindness. Nurture in forgiveness (carefully discarding resentment and anger) Bake with intimacy. Garnish with affection.
Serves 2.
Lasts a lifetime when tended with care.

Friday, March 20, 2009

21 Year Newlyweds


My friends are my estate.
Emily Dickinson

It’s our dream to one day have Caffection.com truly be YOUR website. Each day after returning home from our “paying” jobs, we blog and tweak the site a tad. At times we wonder if a website to affirm married best friends is even needed? And then; there are days we just know. Thank you Stuart & John for sharing your story with us. CONGRATULATIONS!

My husband John and I are newlyweds after 21 years together – happily married since our wedding this June. Exchanging vows surrounded by our family and friends was one of the happiest moments of our lives. READ MORE

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Stay in Love


In order to stay in love, you must consciously create those conditions necessary for love to grow.
Barbara DeAngelis

Monday, March 16, 2009



There will always be people who take advantage, with no regard for the rest of us, so it's incumbent on all of us to be more conscientious about our personal ambitions, because none of us live on an island. We're truly connected in many ways, and that connection is our strength, as well as our weakness.

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Healthful Marriage


Live longer? Live better? Enjoy sex more? Enjoy more sex? Hmmmm, let me think. Here's the deal; at Caffection we're in the process of publishing the very first Caffection Press product, a book/e-book titled Healthful Marriage Wellness for Happy Couples. Inside its covers you'll read why happy couples live longer, fuller lives, enjoy each other more, have great sex, eat better, laugh more often and in general have better lives. There are chapters about history of marriage, appreciating our mates, marriage & money, 25 date nights to pump up your relationship and much more. Look for the book/e-book very soon.

Wednesday, March 11, 2009



The Ides of March are nearly upon us, and this time of year presents a good opportunity to look ahead instead of behind for a change. It's very nearly Spring; time change has already happened; graduation dates are close by and the next big holiday is Memorial Day. Here's an idea: instead of waiting for a public celebration, why not create your own holiday. Call it Caffection Day, and make it a movable feast, a day you do nothing but spend time with your favorite person in the world. It's too easy to neglect the person you love most, live with, share everything with, sleep with in favor of people we see once and then never again. Caffection is another way of re-prioritizing, so we have a balanced life.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009



Wisdom is something acquired only through time.

Saturday, March 7, 2009

Spring Forward

As we spring forward this year, let's focus on helping each other during these challenging times. Every day we learn of a friend, neighbor and/or family member who has encountered a setback as a result of the struggling economy. Since most of us are only able to those closest to us, we can at least give emotional support to others. Keeping a positive attitude and a ready smile goes a long way to bring others up.

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. Confucius

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Split Seconds


Our lives can turn in a split second, altering and detouring in ways we never could have imagined. We've all looked back as a wreck occurs at an intersection we just passed; a friend phones us one afternoon full of cheer and good tidings, and then passes away during the night; a child steps between two cars to retrieve a ball, tires scream, and someone's life is changed forever. We've all been there; this 'life event' has happened to all of us. This is yet another reason we need to heed the gentle voice of reason and serenity and default to love and kindness. There's a saying: "As long as we are capable of anger, there are lessons to be learned."
Here's our thought for this day, and for many: as long as people actively seek to deny their fellow human beings something they take for granted, that denial is a physical manifestation of anger. Particularly if the granting of that benefit, right or resource costs us nothing, and instead increases the amount of love and compassion in the world, that denial is not only suspect, it is indicative of deep seated insecurity and hate. If so, the owner of those emotions needs to do some hard work to raise their emotional intelligence level. Remember, as Wayne Dyer says: "Always choose kind".

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Video Madness


Why is it that videos have such a strong emotional impact on us? Is it because videos of anything make us truly believe that something can be real? Or is it something even more fundamental to the human species, a belief that seeing something move makes it not only appear real, but become a reality?
The reason we're asking today is because more than once we've been asked to remove videos from someone's FB page or e-mail, because the presentation makes them 'uncomfortable'. We're referring to videos like our Caffection productions for YouTube, in which we make no differentiation between straight and gay love. Quite frankly, we didn't know there was a difference. If those videos, and others like them are so powerful, then we all need to transfer the presentations found on Get To Know Us First, and maybe, maybe things will begin to change. Okay, we're a couple of dreamers. Dreams are videos, too, are they not?