Sunday, June 15, 2008


Christ commanded us to forgive not seven times, but seventy times seven. His message was clear: there's no limit on the number of times we must forgive others, regardless of their transgressions. Caffected couples know this instinctively. We're far from perfect mates; our humanity is even more exposed in our caffection, because our spouses encourage us to be the real, flawed, fragile humans we are. Only in a caffected marriage can efforts toward true self-knowledge bear fruit, freeing us from limiting hesitations, doubts, and apprehension about our others' reaction and judgement.
Caffection is therapeutic in many ways; forgiveness is one of the more powerful. As Gerry said to Holly in 'P.S. I love you' after one of their rousing newlywed dustups, "I ain't goin' anywhere." Forgiveness is essential. It's the rock in a caffected marriage, always there in the palm of our hands.

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