Monday, May 18, 2009


This snippet is taken from our soon to be published new book Appreciative Loving. It's part of chapter 2, in reference to public displays of affection.

'One thing we experience from people who encounter us in our public life is a sense of disbelief. Why is that? People have an automatic response to anything that challenges their perceptions and experience. We have to confess that our relationship does that, a lot. We take a fair amount of heat for our open expressions of joy in each others’ company, the simple but heartfelt expressions of love and care we use with each other, regardless of where we are or who is watching. More than once we’ve been advised to ‘get a room’ as they say.
Not to say we’re openly demonstrative to the point of indecency; that’s certainly not us. Indeed, our public interaction is quite the opposite; we elicit stares from other couples because we’re openly tender and caring, not in-your-face tactile like a couple of hormonal teens. But the reactions we elicit are a bit sad in any case. Where is it written that two adults should refrain from showing love and affection for each other? It’s been written and said too many times that the public marketplace is filled with displays of violence and abuse, and our collective response to that is quiet resignation. But if two people, especially two adults, skip along a sidewalk together, or kiss in public beyond the accepted time limit (somewhere between 2 and 2.6 seconds, near as we can figure), others become dismissive and embarrassed.'

If you've experienced such reactions, we'd like to hear about them.

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