Wednesday, April 30, 2008


It's on everybody's mind these days. Filling the tank gets tougher and more expensive every day, and it doesn't help that we seem to be driving more, and longer distances.
But one way to not only conserve personal energy but actually increase it, is to focus all your 'energy' on your mate, and put aside what the world considers priorities such as jobs, kids, family, bills and appointments. We find that when our focus is on each other the peripherals always get handled. Somehow stuff gets done, and we have more time--and energy--for each other. Very cool.

Tuesday, April 29, 2008


Being married to my best friend is on my seven wonders of the world list. The comfort of knowing there is always a shoulder to lean on, an ear to bend, a warm hug and kiss at just the right moment is fantastic.

Monday, April 28, 2008


Gratitude is just one of the byproducts of caffection. When you're married to your best friend, the freedom that status provides allows you to see and hear and feel what's truly important in life, and to take time to be grateful for it. Mother Teresa once said that if the only prayer you ever say is 'Thank you', that would be sufficient.
So today we're grateful, saying thank you for a number of things: beautiful weather, plenty of food, good health, great new opportunities, the love we share, wonderful friends and simple pleasures like good wine, stimulating conversation, and fine music.
Speaking of which, we're particularly grateful today for Mr. Tim Janis and his ensemble. Not only do Tim and his group of accomplished musicians provide melodies that are haunting in their beauty, Mr. Janis has been generous in allowing us to use his composition 'Lighthouse Point' on our website. Thanks, Tim, and here's hoping people who appreciate fine music discover your stuff again and again, and then pass it on to other caffected couples.

Saturday, April 26, 2008


Caffection means you're the apple of my eye, the core of my being, extremely "appeal-ing", together 'til a ripe ole age.  
You know you're caffected when you stand in the APPLE store blogging and having a great time just hanging out together.  

Caffection ingredients

Caffection. The word says it all. Try saying 'Caffection' without at least a hint of a smile, and a feeling of warmth toward your mate. It's impossible. What we believe is, that a main ingredient in every successful relationship, that is caffected ones, is the willingness and ability to let go, listen to the 'hints' that we all hear but sometimes actively ignore, and allow those signals to guide our interactions with people we love. Ever wonder why baking a confection almost demands a smile, maybe even a whistle or hum as you work? It's not because you intend to pleasure yourself with the result. It's the feeling of satisfaction you'll get seeing others' reactions. You wouldn't bake a cake without eggs; why try to build a relationship without caffection?

Thursday, April 24, 2008


As much as we hear and read about how sexy it is to be beautiful, and rich, and famous, and alluring, there are several definitions to those terms. Beauty can mean dedicated to the virtues in a solid marriage; rich can be as simple as knowing you're with your best pal, and needing nothing else; famous is what you may very well be in certain circles when the winds of change and uncertainty swirl around friends and neighbors; any elite status, such as the one you share with your mate, is very alluring. Being solid and secure in your relationship can be all these things: beautiful, rich, alluring and famously rewarding. You may be asked for an autograph.

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Answer: Magnetic

Question: What does caffection look like?

Being a couple with your best friend is incredibly magnetic --- if you allow it to be. 

One way to celebrate your caffection everyday is to say (out loud) 3 things you appreciate about your mate. This helps you to focus on the reasons you're glad they're yours and you're theirs. Celebrate your caffection often. Be proud of your choice in mates, and let everyone know you are! It's bonding, it's solidifying... it's cool to be married to your best friend!

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Caffection Confection

Being married to your best friend is super. Now imagine creating a chocolate raspberry confection to celebrate it.
Yes, a caffection confection. You can make your own special confection to celebrate your caffection.

Monday, April 21, 2008

in-caffection from ch 1, Terms of C-Affection Sexy

It's sexy as hell. What does it mean to be in caffection? Does it mean you’re suffering from some exotic, long-term condition? Well, yes and no. If you’re in caffection are you damaged in some way? Well, not damaged, exactly, but certainly on the shelf. Are you deranged? Out of touch? Had a tad too much coffee?
It's one of those inscrutable things. But the beauty of the word is that if you have it, you know it. It lends itself to the lucky few couples who just know.

Sunday, April 20, 2008


Can you imagine calling your marriage irresistible? We have so much fun with our relationship and it just keeps getting better. We find new ways to create an irresistible and exciting caffected lifestyle. 
Do something unexpected for your mate today. If you're the one on the receiving end of the unexpected, make sure you acknowledge your mate's efforts. Appreciation of one another makes life more fulfilling. Celebrate being a couple every single day. Be proud of the great relationship you have.

Smile and say: "I love being married to my best friend!"

Saturday, April 19, 2008

Energizing--(Terms of Caffection Ch.10)

Married best friends know another reason to indulge this light, this power in their lives. The universe is defined in physics classes, astronomy circles and otherwise in terms of energy. Albert Einstein cemented this definition of a universal law in his relativity equation, where energy equals mass times the speed of light. If E=Mc2 defines the relationship between energy and mass, then our equation would be E=Mc2 where E=Energy, M=Marriage, and C=Caffection squared by two people involved in the most energizing, enlightening, and powerful force in the universe.
Harness this equation, this force, and imagine the possibilities!

Friday, April 18, 2008


What does caffection look like? Energizing! It's cool being married to your best friend. In fact, it's beyond cool; it's the only way to live. Does this mean you never ever disagree, or get irritated, or wonder why you got together in the first place? Of course not. If you try to ignore differences, and hide looming confrontations, regardless of the cause, you're setting yourself up for failure. A hallmark of being best friends is that you're not afraid to open up about virtually anything, so even though there may be stylistic or other differences, they won't interfere with your basic stability.

Thursday, April 17, 2008


That's what caffection is. Could it be any more obvious? Everyone who hears about MTMBF is wildly enthusiastic about it. Being married to your best friend can be taken for granted, but it shouldn't be. There's a degree of status surrounding a union like yours; caffected couples don't like to brag about it, but we think it's time they (we) did.
So if you're 'in-caffection' with your mate, take a bow--and celebrate!


Isn't it great to be married to your best friend? It's exciting and sexy! You share secrets, laugh at each other's jokes, hold hands and skip merrily along this journey of life.
How do you keep your love vibrant?

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Try Caffection

It's just true. Everyone should be married to their best friend. It's fun. It makes life worth living. Imagine falling in love every single day. When you focus on your mate, your best friend, and find new ways to make their life easier... guess what, they start focusing on you too. Before you know it, you're caffected and it's fabulous!
You'll go around with this wonderful smile on your face too.

Tuesday, April 15, 2008


Sloooooowly, the website is coming together. If it isn't right, we'll make it that way, spending the time now rather than later. Don't push the river, it flows all by itself. Thus far we have a good idea what the landing page needs to do and a color scheme for it: the top ten list, the caffection store, e-mail, this blog, about us, and a good contact page for clients and their referrals.

The Flash intro will (hopefully) be accompanied by an Ann Reed melody, possibly written just for MTMBF. The interesting part of all this is seeing things come together just as we anticipated they would. Strange things happen to us.

Stay tuned. The river flows on.

Monday, April 14, 2008

BEME Indeed

I'm imagining people sitting around their tables at the Brick Oven Pizza in Kalaheo, surveying all the license plates, scratching their heads--"BEME? Iowa? What's that mean?" Then back to their pepperoni pineapple pizza.
Everyone should have what we have--and, unlike pizza, there's enough for everyone. In fact, any way you slice it, the more there is--the more there is!

We'll go back to the Brick Oven someday and take them another plate. And ask for one of theirs. Yum!

Sunday, April 13, 2008

Best Friends Forever

How cool it will be to look back one day and remember where it all began. All the times we said, "Everyone should have what we have. Everyone should be married to their best friend." Now we've been given the opportunity to bring that message forward. Fabulous!

Could it be that the BEME plate had a meaning we didn't even know about?

On we go. Forever caffected.

Saturday, April 12, 2008

The Well Caffected Canoe

...and stick together, or else.

A great metaphor--from 'Caffection'

Living in Hawaii a few years ago, we spent time on the ocean paddling a two-place canoe, just the two of us on blue water, surrounded by cresting waves, breaching whales, and dolphins guiding our way. When we paddled out of our safe harbor and onto the vast Pacific, our bond became more than a mere social, economic, or legal entity. Our union became a shared exercise in survival and trust, as wave after wave met our fragile little craft, and we relied on acquired skills—and each other—to meet the challenge and stay upright--to avoid the 'Huli', or capsizing.
Our paddling was a useful metaphor for our caffected life together. On the sea-green Pacific swells we were surrounded by elements that appeared harmless, but could, with inattention or a casual attitude have turned against us instantly. The water was deep. In its depths lived creatures that would have us for a snack if they chose to do so. Rogue waves with brutal power could swamp us in a heartbeat. Sounds a bit like real life, doesn’t it?
So, can caffection save your life? Why take a chance? Don't be a snack. Avoid the Huli. Get Caffection today.

Thursday, April 10, 2008


When looking up at night's bright storm at rest

This night in your arms so warm
I looked and saw what I'd hoped to find
Our stars all even, matched, aligned,
and I was yours
and you were mine
til the world was gone

til the end of time

April Showers

Good morning. I'm writing this from work, knowing you're sleeping away at home, because that's what best friends do; they imagine their best pal safe and warm, while the rest of the world goes about its business.
The concept of a B/W website with a tasteful touch of color sounds like the kind of class we need to show. We'll intend for that kind of 'look', and make it happen.

In Caffection--

Tuesday, April 8, 2008


Mini-Dills outside, and the promise of newness, rebirth, another transition to some other thing. But it is comforting in the midst of all the change to know one thing never does -- our love & devotion to each other.

The first cook-out on the grill was grand! Soon we'll be tooling around on our bikes once again, enjoying the season fully.

Saturday, April 5, 2008

'Lop' together every day

How many of you are married to your best friend?

After being married fifty-four years to the same person, Billy Graham said his secret for love: "Ruth and I are happily incompatible.”

Every couple may have their own secrets for keeping their love strong. One key can and should be finding new ways to add spark to your caffected relationship. We’d love hear and share (with your permission) some of your secrets with others.

In addition to holding hands, Byron and I have invented our own little hop during walks. When one of us initiates the hop the other instinctively repeats it. I’ve yet to see anyone imitate this handy little move, so it’s safe to say it’s our very own distinctive lovehop or shall we say, lop?

Your turn.

The ‘Lop’? Very cute. See, this is one thing that distinguishes us from a lot of couples; we’re not the least bit self-conscious in public about the fact that we’re nuts about each other. And I chose that word carefully. I’m sure a lot of people have seen us ‘lop’ a time or two, and decided that we’re nuts, certifiably so.
Or maybe they just think we’re still a couple of newlyweds? Well, guess what? They’re right. Like a pair of newlyweds, we celebrate our union every day, and we think everyone else should, too. Next time you see us, you’ll know us by our ‘lop’.

Thursday, April 3, 2008


Marriage, ultimately, is the practice of becoming passionate friends. Harville Hendrix

Tuesday, April 1, 2008

The Power of Positive Attitudes

Married best friends have reason to be positive about every aspect of their lives; we’re happier, healthier, less stressed, and more content. This begs the question. Are we this way because we’re best friends? Or are we best friends because we’re positive, and avoid negative, harsh judgments? The answer is yes.

We encourage you to be positive too. Smile, laugh, find joy. Enjoy all the blessings life as a caffected couple offers and you, too, will be richly rewarded.