It's called Marriage.
And it's for everyone.
I know that anyone who desires the commitment of marriage, will one day be allowed to be a wife or a husband. If you're someone who is in a vibrant, healthy, committed relationship and your desire is to be married, yet it's illegal for you to marry, please know-- in my humble opinion -- -- you are more married than a lot of 'married' folks. I look forward to the day I can dance at your wedding (though I don't dance well, I have a lot of fun trying!) And that's what life's about.
Since the day I became Mrs. Byron Edgington I pinch myself and think -- "Wow, how does it just keep getting better?" Though you may be skeptical of that, it's just true. Many people tell me, "Oh, it's not that easy for me because..." and proceed to tell me the many life challenges they must deal with. I do understand and acknowledge the difficulties of past baggage (we have some of that to contend with too) however, everything is a choice. I choose to find the positive in everything. I choose to live in the here and now as much as possible. And so can you.
I also believe if you desire marriage, YOU can make it the most fulfilling experience of your life. Your marriage is your marriage! It's not your parents', your siblings' or any of your friends' experience. It is yours. You get to choose how wonderful it is. Byron and I recognized this early on, we try to make every day one that states "our marriage is fantastic!" Is it always that way? Of course not, but on the days I'm down, he brings me up and vice-versa. Yes, we've both been down on the same days and then friends like you bring us up again.
I've found it's the simple stuff, done on a regular basis, that has made the big difference. I write notes and stuff them in his socks or lunch bag. I do chores he doesn't care to do, I always talk about him with positive regard when others talk about their mates at work. You know why? Because I choose to. And you can to. Find ways to nurture your mate in some way every single day. This is a gift only you can give.
My marriage also taught me how to receive. I had to learn how to accept the nurturing By gave me. This was foreign to me, as it may be to you, but it's a very important way to build your relationship. Everyday I look in the mirror and say, "Thank you, I love you." Acknowledging and accepting yourself is critical to your vibrant marriage. Your mate loves you and you should too.
We frequently ask people what marriage means to them. The wonderful stories that they share always amaze us. Now,with the help of Facebook we've been privileged to hear even more. One of the most exciting things is the potential. The potential? Yes, the potential good that will come to the sanctity of marriage once it's opened to ALL who love, nurture and care for one another in their Caffection. After reading this heartwarming story from the couple above: "Theresa and I met in FL. and fell in love but because of the laws there we could not marry. When I answered my "call" to ministry we moved to Boston in a state that has marriage equality. We were the 1st couple to get married in the brand new Wilson Chapel on the campus of Andover Newton Theological School. There is nothing that makes me as happy as to introduce Theresa as my wife." and watching this video meticulously created by Ricky & Anthony in anticipation of their future family as well as numerous other stories, we understand our passion for equality has a solid foundation. Let's take every opportunity to promote marriage for everyone.